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Aug 16Liked by Anita Bhagwandas

Thank you for this. I am the complete opposite, rarely looking in a mirror unless it's unavoidable. I am Gen X and firmly of the belief that your mirror will turn on you but also because, recently, I feel that by not seeing the mass of imperfections that I see in the mirror, my day will go better. All I see in my reflection is what I see to be 'wrong' with me & things to pick over so maybe if I don't see these things then others won't either...it is exhausting & I know it's pointless at the end of the day.

I am off to print out your mirror messages now...❤

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It’s such a tricky balance isn’t it! I remember a friend from school who would never look in the mirror, and part of me wonders is that an easier way to be! But I think I might try the mirror meditation to see how that goes - and I’ll do more of the post it notes too! Glad they helped!

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Aug 16Liked by Anita Bhagwandas

I love how you weave in historical information into your posts. SO GOOD! I'm a Gen X-er, and I firmly believe that magnifying mirrors are the devil. NO ONE needs to see their face up that close!

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Oh god they really are - although, very useful for eyebrow plucking. Apart from that they’re the devils work! 😂 and thank you!

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Your relationship with the mirror totally resonates with me, yet I know that when I’m away without well lit or tried and tested mirrors, I’m so much happier!

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Oh that’s interesting you’ve noticed it! I’m torn between trying to avoid it or to try the mirror meditation as a way to use the mirror in a more positive way!

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Aug 16Liked by Anita Bhagwandas

I love the three tips at the end of your article. Once in a while I just tell myself “I love you “ in front of the mirror and it brings a smile to my face every single time.

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Oh I love that! I should give that a go! I have to have the sticky notes or I totally forget and go into scrutinising mode. 🤪

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As someone who has full blown body dysmorphic disorder that only erupted after one very challenging year of aging, I implore you--try everything you can to pull back from this now. It may be easier to relax the habit while you're still feeling reassured by your reflection most of the time; there's no guarantee that will hold as your body changes. Sending love.

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